tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2060216394637237928.post2863493086028421261..comments2024-02-05T01:17:20.587-08:00Comments on Angel wings and Herb tea: Keeping memories alivehenriettahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09074892292635873711noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2060216394637237928.post-68530377003203583492011-11-16T14:17:33.863-08:002011-11-16T14:17:33.863-08:00Oh thankyou so much all of you for sharing your st...Oh thankyou so much all of you for sharing your stories, I really appreciate them, it's easy to imagine we are alone in the midst of the turmoil, but, of course we all suffer loss and grief and all react in our own ways. <br />Thankyou for the link to your blog Christina, I will look at that, and love and blessings to you as you travel this path with your Dad's illness, spiritual growth is certainly the shining thread that emerges from deep loss I think, thankyou.<br />Val, thanks for your link too, and how hard for you to lose your Dad at such a time, I agree that, especially with a sudden death, even months and years afterwards it does still shock and surprise. Sometimes I have to read the name on my daughter's grave over and over again, it just doesn't seem real.<br />Laurel,how sad about your parents in law, for them and for * (don't know if you want his name mentioned)Yes I see what you mean about material objects, I think I've just got a downer on material objects generally at the moment, but I do agree that certain things can be imbued with a tangible essence of spirit...thanks for your (very prolific) commenting, love HenriettaHenriettahttp://angelwingsandherbtea.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2060216394637237928.post-65434069372014057622011-11-15T21:32:29.599-08:002011-11-15T21:32:29.599-08:00When a friend of mine died in his early 20s, his m...When a friend of mine died in his early 20s, his mother wrote to all of his friends asking for photos and letters, anything we had that we would be willing to give her, because their family had never seen the point of taking photos - until then - and had very few. On the other hand, my parents-in-law had a son die in an accident at 18. They couldn't move away from the house they had lived in with him fast enough. When they find old photos, they usually send them to us, as if they don't want to keep them, but don't really want to lose them either so they send them to his brother. <br /><br />I wonder if one reason death is so difficult for us is because, as humans, we are in love with certainty and control and this is one domain where it is truly impossible, ever, to be prepared for, or to ever know how to carry on afterwards.<br /><br />You wonder if you are too attached to material props, as you call them, but I wonder if all material things aren't imbued with spirit, because it really can feel like there is something there.<br /><br />This was such a sad post, but I loved it. And I can't believe Lily was wanting to make angel wings. That was startling to read.<br /><br />I miss you!laurelhttp://www.theforestgarden.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2060216394637237928.post-67794192075287775352011-11-15T08:16:36.592-08:002011-11-15T08:16:36.592-08:00Hello Lovely, I know it is no where the same, but ...Hello Lovely, I know it is no where the same, but I lost my Dad, who I adored in January 2009, and the circumstances around his death made it a shock and so difficult to accept. My beautiful son was born 3 weeks after my Dad left us, so in terms of time, I am aware of the time passing as my baby becomes a toddler and then a little boy. People say, time is a healer and I understand that, but I also feel that as each day passes, each week, each month it is longer and longer since I saw him last and that part is harder. Sometimes I actually get a fright and my heart thuds when I realise its really real, he really did die. I suppose thats what happens when someone passes away unexpectedly. <br />You write so beautifully about your daughter and your feelings towards her life and death. I wish I could express myself so well. <br />I dont know what blogs you read, but I am 'friends' (online) with a lovely lady who gave birth to her daughter on 22nd July 2009 and who sadly lost her daughter on the same day, hours later. I have learnt so much about raw emotion from Jeanette. If you want to read her blog, here is Florence Violets story http://lazyseamstress.blogspot.com/p/florence-violet-our-story.html<br />V<br />xxxValeriehttp://vlbeattie.typepad.com/blog/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2060216394637237928.post-82263097183265900112011-11-14T18:06:09.262-08:002011-11-14T18:06:09.262-08:00It seems that these days I find myself presented w...It seems that these days I find myself presented with thoughts about death a lot. Truly I have not ever lost anyone intimately close to my heart, yet my dad was recently diagnosed with final stage terminal cancer and was not given long to live. I live on the side of the world from him and it was very tough for me to process when I first found out. Not long after a dear friend passed unexpectedly and I wrote a post about my thoughts on dying here;<br />http://momenttomomentdk.blogspot.com/2011/08/fly-angel-fly.html<br /><br />Having never experienced the kind of grief you are going through I will not try to offer advice but only wish you spiritual growth through it all.<br />Warmly,<br />ChristinaMoment to momenthttp://www.momenttomomentdk.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com